The feeling of being organized has to come from ourselves. We decide when a job has been accomplished. But life throws things at us indiscriminately. Today's top priority could be at the bottom of the list tomorrow. So, we all need to pick our battles! I didn't truly understand what this meant until a friend said it in reference to an issue I was having in my former marriage. I was picking every battle. I was so unhappy that I could make everything an issue. It made life miserable for both him and me. He could never get his head above my constant disappointment of his actions. I had so much anxiety over the lack of control I felt I had in my life. Obviously the relationship imploded and I sought some much needed therapy. During this period of self discovery I realized that nit picking was something that I was REALLY good at. It was because it gave me some false sense of control. But that's just what it was...FALSE. What happened in my marriage is what happens in our heads when we can't see the forest for the trees. Be easier on yourself and consider taking some things off of that daily battle to-do list. Ease the overwhelming "NEED - to - get - done battles" to "WANT - to - get - done battles". Lower the priority of the "Wants" and consider taking them off the list. Focus on the "Needs". You might find that you may only have a few actual "Needs" on the list.
Try this whenever you hear yourself say "I need..." replace it with "I want..." and see if it changes the intention for you.
"I NEED to buy a present for my friend's birthday."
Or
"I WANT to buy a present for my friend's birthday."
Just replacing this word lightens up the self-imposed pressure of any daily battle that we choose. You may even realize that your friend is probably just going to be happy with a phone call. So cross that one off the list. ; )
